Change- the Unavoidable Tendency of Life

September 24, 2016

Tendency Film

“Change” seems to the most popular word we hear now. But how many people think carefully about this word, and how much they change in their life?



In the space of a very few years we grow from children totally dependent on our parents (or some adult in charge) to, hopefully, become responsible adults. We experience more ‘changes’ in our lives, our mental outlook and well being between the ages of twelve and twenty-two than at any other time throughout our lives. For most of us those are good changes.


When we become adults we work to make a living–some of us own our own businesses large enough to employ others. Some go into service for others from banking to government to health to retail. Others spend their lives on a kind of seniority stepping stone from the production line in a small factory to an executive controlling a large corporation. Many of us will thrive through several occupations during our lifetime. Some will struggle to find that one occupation that suits them the best.


By the time we reach thirty years of age most will own–or want to own–their own home. Most will settle into a monogamous relationship they hope will last their lifetime and most will have children. After thirty, life begins to gradually slow down. We become more relaxed and accepting of ourselves and our lifestyles.


Personally, I faced fifty much easier than I did thirty. At thirty my life was a chaos of questions and mayhem. By forty, I was experiencing the beginning stages of some serious health issues. But by fifty I had put all of that behind, having settled into my life as wife and mother, writer, farmer and teacher. I began to look forward to the easy years of old age. I thought those years were a long way off…then. They’re creeping up faster than I care to face them.


As the years pass by I have learned to ‘accept’ some changes with a mixture of sadness and yet, deep joy. Such as, watching my sons mature and develop their own awareness of life as successful young men.


There are ‘changes’ I wish I had more control over. The economy, for instance, or at least my role in contributing to the economy by paying my bills and spending frugally while still supporting the small business that are the backbone of capitalism that makes this United States thrive.


Then there are the ‘changes’ I can do absolutely nothing about. Tornados, hurricanes and floods, for instance. Or, the recent death of a very dear friend from cancer.


I have often heard someone say, ‘If I only knew then what I know now.” I guess that is one way to accept change. But we can’t go back. We can only learn as we move forward.


Perhaps the most intelligent approach to ‘change’ is acquired through this prayer:


“Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and Wisdom to know the difference.”


Thoughts from the Farm Wife’s Chronicles

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